Happy New Year!!!

The new year always brings with it the promise of a new dawn. It is an opportunity for us to reflect on the year that has gone by and assess the course through which we would like the new year to take. I had such a similar moment at the end of 2016 when I was planning my 2017 goals with my partner. I had read 12 books in 2016 courtesy of the book club and I wanted to challenge myself further. I do not know where the number 30 came from but it became the magic number that would define my 2017. It was more than double the number of books I read in 2016. If I used the logic of the 52weeks in a year, this would mean me reading 1,7books a week! I had just read a book a month! My partner and I decided to go for what we coined the ‘#30bookchallenge’. The first person to make it to 30 books would be bestowed a gift. It is safe to say I am waiting for my gift 😊.


Here is a list of the books I read in 2017

  1. Outliers-Malcolm Gladwell
  2. The Power of Habit-Charles Duhigg
  3. Making Money out of Property in South Africa-Jason Lee
  4. The Secret Lives of Baba Segi’s Wives-Lola Shoneyin
  5. The Smart Money Woman-Arese Ugwu
  6. Leading Women-Nancy D’Oreilly
  7. 48 Laws of Power-Robert Green
  8. Born a Crime-Trevor Noah
  9. Things a little bird told me-Biz Stone
  10. Thrive-Arianna Huffington
  11. Hlomu the wife- Dudu Busani-Dube
  12. You are a badass-Jen Sincero
  13. Miracle Morning-Hal Elrod
  14. The Yearning- Mohale Mashigo
  15. Dominoes-Somizi Mhlongo
  16. The way I see it-Lerato Tshabalala
  17. Zandile the resolute-Dudu Busani-Dube
  18. Letter to my daughter-Maya Angelou
  19. The richest man in Babylon-George Clason
  20. The White Masai-Corinne Hofmann
  21. Option B- Sheryl Sandberg
  22. A Good African Coffee- Andrew Rugasira
  23. Billionaire Under Construction-Dj Sbu
  24. Khwezi-Redi Tlhabi
  25. On becoming-Toke Makinwa
  26. Grit-Angela Duckworth
  27. Milk and Honey-Rupi Kaur
  28. Live Lead Learn-Gail Kelly
  29. Freakonomics-Steven Levitt and Steven Dubner
  30. Year of yes-Shonda Rhimes



I wanted a mix in my choices of books-fiction, non-fiction, African, business, motivational, poetry etc. It allowed me to get to know myself better on the topics that excite me but also pushed me to get out of my comfort zone.

So here are a few pointers on how I was able to read 30 books in one year:

    1. The saying goes ‘Don’t tell people your plans. Show them your results’. In this case, the opposite rang true. From the onset, I started telling people about the challenge I had set for 2017. But even more daring, I shared this on social media. I did this because by sharing this to the world there was no way I was going to allow myself to fail publicly. If I had kept it to myself, it would have been easy for me to give up mid-year and act like it never happened. Let’s not forget, once something is out there on social media it sticks. How embarrassing would it have been to be asked where I was on the challenge 5months after I had abandoned it?! I also appreciated the words of encouragement throughout the year. They kept me going.
    2.  Have a list. This helped me have something to look forward to. The list expanded throughout the year and I allowed myself to buy books on impulse. I needed to maintain excitement over the challenge and while I normally would for other forms of retail therapy, books became my obsession-a healthier obsession if I say so myself.
    3.  Schedule time to read. I started the challenge unsystematically and halfway through the year, I realized that I had not even read half the books I had set to read. I was on my 12th book and I was beginning to panic. Things needed to be done differently. I started scheduling time to read. An hour to 2 hours before bed worked for me and with time it became a habit which I hope to maintain.
    4. Make the most of your free time. We have a lot of idle time we often do not take note off. Waiting for a lunch meeting with a friend, sitting in the waiting room before a doctor’s appointment, on a road trip, on a flight- make the most of it. I started carrying a book with me wherever I went. It particularly worked for those moments when I was becoming impatient waiting for someone. I normally would have resorted to going on Instagram watching other people slay 😊 but this time I was working towards my challenge. There were times when I also had to MAKE free time especially on Friday nights when my friends would suggest we go out. Because I was now enjoying the challenge, the idea of being in bed, reading with a glass of wine on the side became appealing. I had to cut down on going out at times. This obviously had to be in moderation. I think I struck the balance well.
    5. Having an accountability partner. It often helps to have someone equally invested in a challenge with you especially when it’s a healthy competition. Like I mentioned earlier, there was something at stake and I was going to go for it. There is also another way of looking at it. On the 31st December 2017, I was on my last book, The Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes. I was not even half way through it. On that day my partner drew me a schedule for the day to determine how I was going to finish the book before we headed out for the New Year’s Eve festivities. It was this support that helped me finish more than 200pages before 7pm (with understanding!). Thanks T! 😊

Having thought it through these are my top 5 books in no particular order (Let’s not make it any harder).

  1. Miracle Morning
  2. The Year of Yes
  3. Option B
  4. Grit
  5. Hlomu the Wife

It’s the second week of 2018 and I am already seeing people start on their book challenges. I have decided to focus on other challenges but I will still be reading a lot and sharing my book experiences. Keep the reading going. Do not give up! Enjoy what 2018 has to offer. The pursuit of knowledge will always be worthwhile.


Lerato is a Supply Chain professional in the FMCG industry. Not satisfied with being confined to her day job, Lee is always reading something different. The development of women and Africa are what fuel her passion. She would one day love to have dinner with Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and pick her brain on so many issues


I have been caught up on the trend of Africans writing their own stories and trust me it’s such a beautiful thing. It is such an authentic experience for me to read an African narration forged by an African with a few words in vernacular to emphasize points especially those phrases that lose meaning when translated. I take pride in knowing that I have written a few ‘stories’ of my own. Unfortunately, I haven’t written anything in vernacular (well, at least not yet), so thought it befitting to throw in my own one liner and call it an African proverb. I prefer to tell my stories in one line and I think I am pretty darn good at it because I am one cheeky girl who always has what they call “clever answers” at the tip of my tongue. It is my preferred style of writing and I would love to hear about your style and take to your personal writing.


Before I go on a tangent and write a blog about me, my ‘work’ and my “clever answers”, let me focus on the main thing…

 So initially I wanted to write a blog on the two trending books in South Africa and discuss the writers war in my article before choosing a favourite – Dominoes by Somizi Mhlongo and From A to B by Bonang Matheba. This theme was going to be my “Pièce de Résistance”, the chief dish of my literary meal, until I got lost in the characters and swallowed up whole by the stories each had to tell and how they told it.

Somizi vs Bonang

So instead of creating a review about the two literary antagonists (and ex bff’s), I am going to provide a review of each book separately.

Dominoes came as a recommendation from one of my book club members mainly because everyone took an hour to read the book. I loved reading Dominoes – it was an effortless and idiot-proof read, which lots of South African’s could relate to, which added to its popularity.

Side note: if you have a reading target for the year, I would suggest you add this book to your cart (thank me later).


I love the title of this book and I love that he defined the title for us in a way that left no room for assumptions (and you know what assumptions do – they make an ass of you and I). Brian Temba’s hit single, Dominoes, inspired the book’s title and I now understand why it is a perfect fit because it sums up a story of breaking down walls, barriers and stereotypes… Somizi Mhlongo’s story is that of the proverbial walls falling like dominoes.

I can name the date, time and place of the morning I began reading this book – I was having such a bad morning; I did not want to go to the gym, I just wanted to be in bed, and I thought Somizi’s story could be a good pick-me-up. I finished it that very morning and still made it to work with enough time to make some brekkie. As I mention earlier it was an idiot proof read however, I felt it to be an unsatisfying quickie. All I could think of as I went through the day was, “size does matter!”. Size matters because it allows you to narrate your story properly, it allows you to connect with the reader and for your reader to understand your journey as a writer. I am a huge Somizi fan and I love his story but the speed of the book left a bad taste in my mouth.

We can talk about size the whole day but what I loathed the most about the book was his June 16 memory mentioned in the same speed as his fall out with Bonang. I think that if you are going to mention such a historic event and mention that you were there, it would only be befitting to hear the story from a Somizi point of view. Also, considering Sarafina, a movie about the events that led to the 16th of June, is one of the most iconic South African movies and represents the iconic role played in the movie by Somizi, I feel like he gave an aeriel view of the event that made June 16 so trivial. One can argue that it wasn’t that type of ‘party’ but if you are going to open a bottle of bubbles, you need to pop the cork. You need to go the full nine yards…

Now that I am done with my rant, I will dive into the content within the book – Somizi’s story and his unbreakable spirit. Somizi’s story is a story most African can relate to. It’s a story most Africans will appreciate. It’s a story that will challenge most Africans to introspect.

“There weren’t really that much of guidance and role models. We didn’t have anyone to look up to who was educated. So I looked outside for inspiration”.

I sobbed when I read these lines; I sobbed because I am fortunate that I had and still have role models growing up but I realised that I am not paying it forward, I realised that I am not being a good role model. I started asking myself if I am spending time giving the younger generation guidance or am I just perpetuating the problem. Somizi is definitely an outlier because he had the wisdom to look outside for inspiration which I commend him for, but not everyone has that type of wisdom. This challenged change in me more than anything and I hope that once you have read the book, the spirit of change spurs within the depths of your souls, minds and hearts. Guidance was a common theme in most of the chapters of his book. When he was down and out, he mentioned guidance because he was trying to keep up appearance which, in retrospect, he deemed unnecessary. He also emphasises the importance of guidance when referring to the new celebrities, e.g. Babes Wodumo and stresses that talent is only one slice of the cake, and if mismanaged, the amazing talent will result in a downfall. I personally think that good guidance nurtures an unbreakable spirit.

As I read some of the lines in Dominoes, I realised how fickle life can be and how we actually don’t have infinite time with our family or friends. For instance, when Somizi left for Broadway I don’t think he ever imagined that he will never dance with his father again. I don’t think that when he couldn’t go out for drinks with Lebo, he knew that it was going to weirdly save his life, and death would rob him of a friendship like that. This got me making a list of people I need to have a conversation with in 2017 because the only thing that’s certain in life is death.

Somizi, I take my hat off to you for saying NO. I think a lot of the South African ‘soldiers’ fell because they couldn’t say no. I mean Brenda Fassie was such a legend, I think if she had offered me drugs I would take them in a heartbeat. I mean if I tried to walk in your shoes I would have taken those drugs for a lot of reasons with one of them being that maybe doing drugs with a legend would allow me to gain favour with her especially after she called you boring. I am in awe at the fact that you stood your ground. You just redefined NO for me and I think a lot of Africans especially aspiring artists have a lot to learn from this.

Somizi also touches a lot on failing, doing it all over again and staying ‘humble’. I mean this guy was accused of sexual assault, he lost a lot of things but he rose above it and everything that he touches professionally sparkles… He is all over my screen and radio because he chose to fail forward and displays resilience every single day…


A philanthropist by night and a marketer by day. She is always keen to listen and learn.

I remembered when Pepsi and I were discussing a concept for the article and how controversial and exciting it would be to write about the ‘book war’ between Somizi and Bonang. I am glad you have shared a more positive outlook. This has made me realize that each book could have it’s own space. Well, at least I will draw that conclusion with conviction when we get to read your opinion on Bonang’s book. No pressure 🙂

How I owned 6 properties by 26 (Part 2)

People are selfish, that’s a fact, and we inherently want the best for ourselves & “our people”. But this selfishness does not exude itself as camaraderie in the Black Culture, which I think it should. All over the world stigma and perception follows us – misconceived perception. And as a people it will only be to our benefit to master collaboration, acceptance and appreciation of each other. It is the division lines and the black on black jealousy & criticism that perpetuates white on black sneer.

You can read Part one of this blog here. Having now become an owner of three properties & learning the ropes of managing tenants, reducing costs and tax implications I shared my journey in conversation with my friend, Achoro. He owned no properties and we often debated in discussions on building wealth and its challenges, he often said “People want to win alone, shared wealth is not a culture”. As an entrepreneur it is a challenge securing funding for investments like property – at least as an individual.

4. Mastering Collaboration

When you make a decision to trust someone, and that trust is mutual – Building becomes easier. Achoro was on the lookout for a small property investment; a studio apartment to start off with when this opportunity landed on our laps. We found a trio of studio apartments on the market by the same owner. She lived abroad and was divesting her investments in SA, it was perfect – one owner means a bigger opportunity to negotiate. This was not a purchase Achoro could take on alone, & after some serious thought, number crunching on ROI & persuasion skills I was on board as a co investor. Taking the deal on together meant shared risk, and shared wealth.

5. Negotiate

“In property, you make money when you BUY, not when you sell!” it is imperative to understand that buying property at market value is not a great deal. You always want to purchase in a buyers’ market, or purchase under market value. That way when you re-sell at market value you already have your profits and need not overprice. We did our research, found out what the owners had paid for the property, current market value as well as potential growth for the area and put in a ballzy offer to purchase. Of course our offer was declined… yes declined. The challenge was we could not put one offer for all three properties, they had to be treated individually. So with 2/3 accepted offers, we went back to negotiation table.

This is where as a buyer you need to remove excitement and look at the properties with a critical eye. Paying another visit to the studio helped us to do that. It was clear the flooring was not in tip top shape and would require replacing at some point. This negative factor we used as leverage to renegotiate and find a happy price for everyone. Which we did – Deal landed!!!

apartment layout

6. Strategise & Plan

The paper work got underway and I had 3 additional tenants to “look after”. Six properties purchased in 24 months has been a big learning curve, a lot of admin and frightening. Yes these are assets, but at the moment they are huge liabilities. The bank owns the property until you pay it off – so do so as quick as you can. And as I take time to let it all sink in, let the dust settle it is the right time to strategize. Property is an investment yes, but it is also a business. One that needs to be taken as seriously as its risks, and planned for. There are a number of property investing models you can take. I have made use of the “Buy to let” model which speaks to long term growth, this is not an instant gratification model. I’m in it for the long haul!

“I am not an early bird, or a night owl. I am some form of permanently exhausted pigeon!” J African Child | Blogger| Financial Crusader

Thanks Nwamara for concluding how you managed to acquire 6 properties in 24months. Key learnings- be clear on why you want to get into property and collaborate . Nwamara got into property because she did not see the point of paying someone else’s mortgage. I share her sentiments.  With property being a foreign idea to most of us, it is important for us to acquire the necessary knowledge. If you have recently brought property and would like to share how you managed to do so, email us on info@blvbookclub.com with your story. Let us keep inspiring each other!


How I owned 6 properties by 26 (Part 1)

Hi I am Nwamara Obiike and I am a 27 year old Black woman; and this is my story about how I accumulated six properties by age 26.

I come across many people with whom I have interesting conversations regarding money, family & investments. Each new person (all of similar age) are extremely surprised that I currently have investments in six different properties. This not only indicates that they assume it impossible but also indicates the financial empowerment still needed in our black communities. In order to bridge the financial gap, to close in on decades of marginalization where our counterparts built wealth, we need to find ways to accelerate this wealth building, lay stable foundations and let go of the mental shackles.

  1. Making the decision to stop paying someone else’s mortgage.  

At age 24 I had been a tenant for 2 years. The rent was cheap- at first- and the apartment was beautiful. It was this wooden floored, open plan style apartment with high ceilings in the heart of a cultural node in Durban, South Africa. I had just moved into the city when I found it so you can imaginee I needed that soft landing. But after two years of blissful stay and another rent increase approaching I could not bear the thought of parting with that amount of money with no asset attached to it. So I made the decision to stop paying someone else’s bond & started the search for property 1. I found a quaint apartment also in the heart of Durban closer to the ocean at a decent price. It needed a kitchen renovation (but that’s a story for another day) but besides that it was in great condition. Before putting an offer forward I researched for the previous purchased price of the flat (yes, this stuff is available online) and it can be a good indication of what offer to put forward in the current market conditions. I low balled the seller, because sellers will always counter. Because I was a first time buyer, I used my qualification and good credit score to get 100% financing from my bank at a favorable interest rate. Financially the end monthly costs were about R1000 ZAR more than my rental which I was happy with, it was my asset.

2. Taking a Risk  

Needless to say I selected bank 2 and raised the 10% through savings and family (family is interest free 🙂 ). This was my first investment property to be tenanted.

“In property, you make money when you buy, not when you sell”. I took a risk and put my name up and forward to the bank. This is probably one of the few times that you truly benefit from being a full time employee- Banks LOVE to give credit to clients working for corporates. I financed this property also through a bond with two bank offers to choose from, Bank 1 at 100% with a very unpleasant interest rate and the other, Bank 2 at 90% with a favorable interest rate. Banks will test your commitment and stability by giving you 90% as you will need to raise the remaining 10% as a down payment. After doing the math, the interest I would pay in the 100% loan over the period of time would dramatically exceed the 10% down payment required by bank 2.

About 8 months after buying my first property I received a call regarding a new developing block in an up and coming area in Johannesburg. My first thought- “I just bought a property, there is no way I will get financing”. This was my first introduction to “new builds” and their benefits. The price you get is all inclusive with new properties, no transfer cost bond costs. It felt like a bargain because the value instantly increases once the property is completed. The earlier you purchase a developing property the more you gain once it’s completed.

3. Learning to collaborate

The potential growth and value of the second property was extremely enticing that 4 months later I took a bold risk and aimed for a second apartment in that development. Truthfully, I had no more money and would have needed to fund this property through 100% loans which the bank refused to give. I was trying to do it all on my own and was quickly reminded of Kiyosaki’s words. He spoke about owning a small piece of a big pie rather than owning 100% of a very small pie. So I made the choice to collaborate and co invest in this property. My co investor & I could not afford the property individually, but together it was lucrative. I went 50/50 and the bank was more than willing to give me 100% financing on the 50% amount.

I am no expert, this is only a part of my journey and there is a long road ahead. I find comfort in educating myself and there is no better way than reading a book that will help kickstart your voyage to financial literacy.

“I am not an early bird, or a night owl. I am some form of permanently exhausted pigeon!” J African Child | Blogger| Financial Crusader

Thank you Nwamara for sharing how you have managed to reach a feat that many aspire to. It is important that we empower each other not only by sharing the ‘what’ but most importantly the ‘how’. Execution and bringing our goals to life is everything!-Lerato


– A Shared blog by Kara Stevens of http://www.thefrugalfeminista.com

We place a copious amount of pressure on ourselves as females and probably even more so as Black females. In Africa, the intricate balance of cultural expectations, corporate struggles, and racial dilemma’s and topped off with patriarchy is one that leaves us pulled in all directions. These are the threads that have sewn and stitched the garment of SBWS, the strength and resilience we have developed as females is represented in the physical, emotional and psychological weight we carry in our lives… which can leaves us broken… and broke! I’m passionate about financial freedom, & even more so about women empowerment. It is always gold when I find an interesting take that includes both. I am guilty of SBWS and I struggle with vulnerability, but I had not consciously registered the impact on my finances.

Enjoy the read. ||Nwamara Obiike

Strong Black Woman Syndrome (SBWS) calls on Black women to be the problem-solvers, chief caretakers and “end all, be all” for everyone in their lives sans support and respite. Essentially, the Strong Black Women Syndrome demands that Black women never buckle, never feel vulnerable, and most importantly, never, ever put their own needs above anyone else’s—not their children’s, not their communities, not the people for whom they work—no matter how detrimental it is to their well-being.

As a community, we’re slowly coming to terms with the emotional and spiritual dis-ease this syndrome has on the Black women it envelops. Sadly though, we continue to fall short in analyzing its ravishing financial implications, though they are numerous and quite glaring.When we fully unpack the acute financial downside of this unrealistic cultural expectation and tired trope, we can clearly see that SBWS leaves Black women and the families they support not only broke, but also broken. Here are four ways.

  1. The Strong Black Woman Syndrome produces financial underachievers. In many a family, Black women are subsidizing the financial lives of adult children, grandchildren and spouses all on one income. This phenomenon creates wealth hubs instead of wealth webs. With wealth hubs, Black women’s incomes are at the epicentre of wealth and capital in their immediate networks. This phenomenon jeopardizes and threatens the stability of families led by Black women, because there’s little financial reinforcement created to buffer financial strain placed on one income or set of resources. It’s also nearly impossible to spread financial risk equitably if there is only one source of income.

Wealth webs, on the other hand, occur when family members are connected to other family members with growing assets, thus creating a strong network of capital and resources. When there are several sources of income, opportunities for wealth creation become easier to create.

  1. The Strong Black Woman Syndrome stifles business expansion. For Black women with this complex, there’s the distorted belief that they shouldn’t ask for help. An aspiring entrepreneur with SBWS is often uncomfortable with asking for support—seed money, a referral, or child care support—because she considers it a sign of weakness or believes she can’t depend on anyone but herself.

Failure to speak up for what’s needed to expand a business cripples its growth. Period. In the event that an entrepreneur with this syndrome reaches out for help, it’s usually too late, and she loses out on key industry connections, slowing down the trajectory of expansion by years or creating less-than-ideal business agreements.

  1. The Strong Black Woman Syndrome encourages impulse-buying and emotional spending.It’s a law of nature: whatever is repressed never goes away. Ever. In fact, when whatever is pushed down finally surfaces, it tends to explode with the same pressure with which it was forced to quell.

When a Black woman living under SBWS seeks an outlet for all of the emotional and financial caregiving she gives to others, it’s usually online, at a dealership, or at a mall. And usually, what she buys to comfort her soul and spirit isn’t cheap. The cost of the purchase can be in direct relation to the feelings of neglect, overwhelm and resentment.

In other words, the more pain she feels, the bigger and more expensive the reward.

  1. The Strong Black Woman Syndrome models financial dysfunction and passes down a maladaptive money relationship to the next generation. When children observe financial martyrdom in the money behaviors of women in their lives, they emulate these practices as adults. Girls grow to be these women; boys grow up to marry them.

As a personal finance coach, I work with adult Black women who, despite their age, continue to harbor rancor against their mothers for their current financial predicament. In a recent coaching session, a self-proclaimed “recovering Strong Black Woman” shared that she learned to take on a disproportionate amount of her household expenses—using all of her salary for bills and living in an unhappy financial silence in a rocky marriage— because she saw her mother do the same with her father when she was a girl.

The Strong Black Woman Syndrome is a racist and sexist archetype created to emotionally and financially marginalize Black women. It keeps Black women far from emotional happiness and financial wellness, thus limiting access to their full humanity. Beware.

Nwamara Obiike – A Shared blog by Kara Stevens of http://www.thefrugalfeminista.com

“I am not an early bird, or a night owl. I am some form of permanently exhausted pigeon!” J African Child | Blogger|Financial Crusader

This rings true for me even more after having read Thrive by Arianna Huffington.  The expectation for women, especially black women to carry the weight and put everyone else’s needs above their own has serious ramifications as stated by Kara Stevens. Arianna Huffington also shared that you can not fill another’s cup before filling your own. SBW take care of yourself. Be conscious and be intentional but above all, take care of your self.. Thanks Nwamara for sharing-Lerato


*Thrive*You are a badass*Miracle Morning*

It has been a while since we shared our thoughts and discussions with you our readers. This has largely been due to a hiatus we decided to take in order to determine the direction the book club needed to take to grow. During this break, I continued with my #30bookchallenge and I am now on my 16th book. This means I would have to read 1 book roughly every week to make it to the 31st of December. It will be done!

I have been on a personal development journey and have learnt to appreciate self-help books. (Click link to read a previous article on self-help books). If you are like me and enjoy watching Ted Talks and motivational videos, you probably believe that every self-help book probably says the same thing just in different ways. There is nothing wrong with that. What is important is that in all the books that you read, something clicks and sticks.

Thrive-Arianna Huffington

Thrive 2

Written by Arianna Huffington, co- founder and editor-in-chief of The Huffington Post, Arianna covers how she has managed to thrive in business while managing a fair work-life balance. She highlights the importance of well-being in our success. I see it often in the workplace where people work long hours and expect to thrive in all that they do. You know those people who get to the office before you and are still on their laptops with no sign of surrender when you leave. I used to be one of those people. My work was my life! Unfortunately/Fortunately my body heeded to the call of rest. I started having migraines often. I had the type of migraines that would render me enfeeble. It was from then that I started to work the necessary work hours, obviously with exceptions occasionally. I believe in working efficiently. I always strive to do all the required work in the time necessary. Arianna recalls a similar wake-up call where she fell and injured herself due to exhaustion and lack of sleep. Through this book, I have also learnt to schedule my sleep times. It feels like primary school all over again with those 8pm bed time calls! Because I dedicate my evenings to reading books, watching inspirational videos and sometimes some series, it is easy to sleep as late as midnight. I schedule my sleep time alarm to ensure that I do not come up with the inevitable excuse for snoozing my alarm the next morning.

You are a badass-Jen Sincero

You are a badass

Jen Sincero is that sassy aunt with wit, down-to-earth humor and blunt truths! Reading this book was refreshing. No topic is too mundane in this book. She is telling you to snap out of whatever is getting in the way of you being a badass. ‘You are a victim of the rules you live by’. The rules you live by can be determined by what you absorb from your surroundings and forms of influence. Not all of it is positive. We need to find a quiet space that allows us to identify those causal elements and break them down. ‘The life you want is right here, right now’. What type of life do you envision for yourself? Are you living that life now? What do you need to do live that life? Start now. #thatisall.

Ok, ok, it’s not that easy. If it was, we would be living our best lives already. This is where my third book comes in.

Miracle Morning-Hal Elrod

Miracle Morning 2

Of the three books, this was my favorite! I always know a book is good by countless personal notes in the margins or rather in the notes section of my kindle. I had many aha moments and it resonated with a lot of what I had been thinking prior to reading the book. I have often declared that I am not a morning person even though I desire to be one. I believe that if I wake up early, I get a good start to my day. This is instead of the usual scramble in the morning to shower, dress up and get my foot out of the door to make it in time for my first meeting. Hal Elrod says ‘It’s time to wake up to your FULL potential.’ He believes that it all starts with how you wake up in the morning, and that there are small, simple steps that one can start taking today to enable one to become the person they need to be to create the levels of success they truly want and deserve. Hal also gives us a 95% reality check-95% of our society is settling for far less than they are capable of, struggling in almost every area of their life. The other 5% are simply thriving. He advises us to ‘identify the fundamental causes of mediocrity so you prevent them from robbing you of the life you want’.

The greatest insight from this book would be the Life S.A.V.E.R.S. These are the 6 practices that Hal says are guaranteed to save you from a life of unfulfilled potential.

S is for Silence-it is starting the morning with a period of purposeful silence and shutting all the noise that is determine to destroy your day before it even begins. This can be through meditation, prayer, reflection, deep breathing and gratitude.

A is for Affirmations- shutting any negative internal dialogue and replacing it with positive assertions about yourself. This prevents you from ‘repeating and reliving the fears, insecurities, and limitations of your past.’

V is for Visualization-This is the process of imagining exactly what you want to achieve or attain, and then mentally rehearsing what you’ll need to do to achieve or attain it. I have always had a vision board but Hal emphasized the importance of viewing it daily and amending it when the necessary.

E is for Exercise-‘From waking you up and enhancing your mental clarity, to helping you sustain higher levels of energy throughout the day, exercising soon after rising can improve your life in many ways.’

R is for Reading- I am obviously an advocate for this. Because I read before I go to bed, I dedicate my Miracle Morning to reading thought-pieces and articles.

S is for Scribing-This empowers one to document their idea, insights, successes and areas of opportunity.

‘Whatever it is that you write, putting words on the page is a form of therapy that doesn’t cost a dime.’-Diana Raab

 My biggest lesson from reading these books has been that one can search and read about how to improve themselves but you have to be mentally prepared to do the work that is required to see your efforts be realized. And even if you are not in that mental space yet, reading and learning as much as possible still comes a long way into getting to where you want to be.

Have you read any of these books? How have they empowered you in your personal development journey?


Black women breathe flowers too: After Nayyirah Waheed

Black women breathe flowers too: After Nayyirah Waheed

Black women are amazing, there’s no doubt about that. However, most of what people think we are amazing for isn’t even our own doing. If I had to detail the gymnastics we’ve had to do to survive, you’d be reading all day. Failed by fellow women, failed by our men,  black girls have been on their own for a while now and we’ve held our own. We have shrunk ourselves,  we have pulled tricks out of hats, traded our physical and mental health and dignity all to get sh*t done.

Now all of this has supposedly toughened us. It has given off the impression that we embody strength. Maybe we do, but trust me, it was never by choice. Black women have never purposely worn the badge of strength, it has been thrust on us by all those who benefit from us wearing this badge.  What this has done is that it has made mannier men-and dare I say black- think that we aren’t delicate. That we don’t need care. That we thrive in our position of strength.

Issa lie.All of it.

Growing up, I watched my “strong” grandmother be given pocket money from her own grant by my grandfather. The logic was that because she was strong, she supposedly could make-do with less money. That very same grandmother could only run to her daughters to cry and share her anger. Her pride and sense of family could not allow her to share her pain with anyone outside her family, because well, her respected preacher husband’s reputation needed protecting.

I further watched my own mother raise 4 children alone. I watched as she too, pulled tricks out of a hat to give these kids the best shot at life. With a man who walked out on her,  she had to embody “strength” if any of us were to make it.  To this day,I have no idea the extent of my mother’s sacrifices for us. What I do know is that, hurt as she was,  she had to swallow her pain and anger time and time again for our sake. She made sure we weren’t jaded.

Now now, some of you are probably unable to relate to any of this because your fathers and grandfathers and uncles and brothers and cousins are amazing (right….). What I do want you to be honest about though is how often the women in your family have been burdened with wearing the badge of “strength” for the sake of the family’s survival. How much bitter shame, heartache and rage they’ve had to swallow back all for the sake of the men in their lives?

Great…now we’re getting somewhere.

This strength badge that only black women seem to have been gifted with has created this perception of the existence of “strong black women”. Our “strength” is tried and tested each time black men mess up and we have to either clean up after them or siqume inyala(cover-up their shenanigans). The irony of this is that men always seem to be the testers of the depth of this supposed strength that they have thrust upon us. It’s a never-ending fountain that they drink from often.

Black women breathe flowers too poem

News flash:
Like all your delicate other women,”black women breathe flowers too” as Nayyirah Waheed so eloquently put it. We aren’t woven in strength,  we have had to learn that so as to carry the weight of our deliberately weak men. I for one am sick of this badge that I’ve never asked for. Black women cannot continue breaking and shrinking for the sake of men. Believe it or not, black women aren’t any more stronger than the average person, we’ve just done what needs to be done to survive.
Yeah,let that sink in. We are neither hulks nor magicians.
Frank(ie) Talk is a Development Finance Masters student at the University of Cape Town. When she is not making bracelets at Relate, you’ll find her at some coffee shop in Cape Town reading or theorizing about the World.
This could not have come at a better time. The hashtag #Menaretrash has been trending and has once again exposed our  society -a society at shame with itself with how it treats its black women. It is an epidemic. Until we fix it and until we accept that black women breathe flowers too we will never be able to fix the many socioeconomic issues we face today. And it is not even just about that. It is about appreciating the women who evoke so much strength to just make things work. Frank(ie) is ranting-rightfully so!-Lerato

2017-What have you been reading so far?

If there is one thing I appreciate about our Meetups, it would be the variety of books we talk about. Our last General Meetup was not focused on a specific type of book but was about what we had been reading for the last month in our individual capacity. The aim of these general Meetups is to expose each other to other types books out there that we would otherwise have overlooked. Often a person’s recollection of a book and its impact on their life is enough to influence you and catch your interest. If not, you at least consider adding it to your book list.

So what have the ladies been reading so far?


Nwamara Obiike: Kasinomics by GG Alcock and Rich Woman by Kim Kiyosaki

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[LATEST ARTICLE ALERT] I NEVER GREW UP IN A WEALTHY HOME By Nwamara Obiike Nwamara shares her journey to financial freedom and is currently reading #RichWoman and #womenandwealth in a her desire to share her take on #Wealth, #women and #africa. We can't wait to learn more from her. #bloggers #blogpost #books #kimkiyosaki #bookfollow #bookclub #womenempoweringwomen #LeadingLadies Enjoy the read and share your thoughts #blvbc

Nwamara has been reading a lot of Financial books and also recently wrote about spending habits. See http://blvbookclub.com/2017/03/01/six-questions-to-ask-before-you-spend-that-money/. Her tip from having read both books would be to ‘Start Small’. It is about getting the basics right first then expanding and even getting to a point where you can buy investments in other markets.

We should all be investing in our Financial Literacy. It is expensive to be poor! If you learn more, you earn more.

Asake Okin: Various blog posts

Asake Okin has been reading a lot of blog posts. One that she recommended was https://hbr.org/2005/09/the-dangers-of-feeling-like-a-fake. We discussed the Imposter Syndrome. This phenomenon is common amongst women. This is a feeling of inadequacy and feeling like you don’t deserve to be where you are. These feelings hinder you from progress. The very same feeling of exposing your weaknesses is bound to become your reality.

Ijangolet Ogwang: The Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes and Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

The Year of Yes 3

For Ijangolet’s thoughts on ‘The Year of Yes’, see http://blvbookclub.com/2017/02/13/so-tell-me-who-are-you/

Miracle Morning

Ijangolet is on a journey of re-reading and applying the books that she has read in the past and a book that she has been enjoying is ‘Miracle Morning’. It is about the theory that what you do before 8am influences your day. I was excited about this discussion because I am not a ‘morning person’ and getting a good start to my day is always something I try to perfect. It is about having time for yourself so that you have time for the rest of the world. Morning rituals were shared. My biggest takeout is that I need to work on sleeping early so that I am in a position to wake up early. It is a work in progress.

Ashleigh: 10 Simple Steps to Property Wealth by Jason Lee

Making Money out of Property in South Africa

’10 Simple Steps to Property Wealth’ is Jason’s second book after the one I recently read, ‘How to make money out of Property in South Africa’. We discussed buying property to sell that is by buying low and renovating then selling the property for good margins. There are other ways to making money like buying a 2-bedroom apartment and converting it into a 3-bedroom apartment. This would usually take less than a year. We also looked at generating alternative revenues from properties through marketing and signage to add value to the property.

Thuli Dube: The Wait by Meagan Good and Devon Franklin and The Smart Money Woman by Arese Ugwu

The Wait

Thuli found ‘The Wait’ to be interesting but overrated with all the media hype around it. The book has a Christian premise but claims to be relevant in all sphere of life. We spoke about how we tend to settle for less and at the same time hinder ourselves from being with the one we deserve or actually desire to be with.

So the question was, how do we bring about these opportunities that allow us to be with the partner we are praying for? Ultimately, it is about being patient and waiting on God. The risk of losing patience when waiting for your partner is that you will ‘end up playing musical chairs’: settling for anyone who comes your way.


Thuli also enjoyed ‘The Smart Money Woman’. I think this book has been doing the rounds in BLV BOOK CLUB J.

Read  http://blvbookclub.com/2016/12/01/be-a-smart-money-woman/ for more on Smart Money Woman.

The Smart Money Woman characters

Pepsi: How to get from where you are to where you want to be: The 25 Principles of Success by Jack Canfield and The Defining Decade by Meg Jay

Pepsi has a passion for reading on relationships and all things ‘love-related’ and this year, has also decided to re-read a lot of books in order to be apply what she learns in real life.

How to get from where you are to where you want to be

How to get from where you are to where you want to be’ is about taking control of your life. Jack Canfield talks about an equation: situation+response=outcome. We always complain about our circumstances and the people we have to deal with every single day but we never really think about what we can do to change the situation. We allow the situation to have power over our lives. We sometimes spend time complaining about whatever is bothering us yet we never think of what is within our realm of influence. What did you do?

The book also talks about self-belief. With that comes programming yourself so that when you are in your comfort zone you are uncomfortable but when you are in your uncomfortable zone you are comfortable. This fosters continuous improvement. You can do anything you want to achieve but nothing comes easy. We also spoke about time being our currency and how especially at work, we often complain about the tasks we are given. Instead, we should always look at what value can be extracted from that task.

Pepsi’s 2nd book is ‘The Defining Decade’ by Meg Jay is about how your 30’s are not the new 20’s.


‘The Defining Decade’ is about the things you should do in your 20’s to set you up for life. Meg Jay, the author also touches on relationships and how in our early 20’s we tend to not be intentional about relationships we enter. This set us up for the risk of finding ourselves in our late 20’s playing musical chairs with whoever is available. We also discussed feeling stuck in careers and feeling like we can not pursue new avenues. The starting points should be your points of interests. We should not feel stuck. Our 20’s are also a time for us to spend as much time as possible with our parents. As they get older, they have also become wiser. Time, as mentioned before is of the essence as our parents get older. We should be able to communicate and share as many memories with them whilst we still can. For more on the book, watch https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=the+deciding+decade

Frank(ie) Talk: Beautiful South Sudan by Achier Deng Akol Ayay

[LATEST ARTICLE ALERT] BEAUTIFUL SOUTH SUDAN : A LOVE STORY by Frank (ie) Talk Link in Bio Frank(ie) Talk shares her thoughts on Beautiful South Sudan : The Heart of Africa and her biggest lessons from the book. Enjoy the read and share your thoughts on the article #books #bookfollow #bookstagram #ReadingMotivation #Readers #reading #bookclub #2017 #bloggers #follow #follow4follow #zimbloggers #sabloggers #naijablogger #africanbloggers #africanauthors #authors #blogpost #black #Africansread #africa #africanliterature #blackgirlsreadtoo #article #authenticity #beautifulsouthsudan #achierdengakolayay #sudan #blvbc

Frank(ie)Talk met a friend from South Sudan whose father, Achier Deng Akol Ayay, actually wrote the book, ‘Beautiful South Sudan’ and she felt she had to read the book and broaden her view of Africa. She learnt to be more intentional about seeking an alternative view on any place out there. Read http://blvbookclub.com/2017/02/16/beautiful-south-sudan-a-love-story/ for more of Frank(ie)’s views on the book.

Lerato: The Power of Habit of Charles Duhigg, Making Money out of Property in South Africa by Jason Lee and The Secret Lives of Baba Segi’s Wives by Lola Shoneyin

Those who follow me on social media will know that I have embarked on a 30 book challenge. Given my schedule and various plans for 2017, 30 seemed like the magic number to achieve this year. I am currently on my 8th book which means that given we are in the 4th month of the year, I am not lagging too far behind. I will not go through all the books I have read so far. That is a whole separate post for another day but I will dwell on at least two of the books I have read so far this year.

[AFRICAN GIRLS READ] If you believe you can change - if you make it a habit - the change becomes a habit. This is the real power of habit - - Charles Duhigg .................... Ms. @lerato_nkanyezi in Cape Town, South Africa ................... Tag @blvbc and use #AfricanGirlsRead to be our next featured reader ................... #books #bookfollow #bookstagram #black #ReadingMotivation #Readers #africanbloggers #naijabloggers #zimbloggers #sabloggers #reading #africanblogger #Africansreaders #follow #follow4follow #africanliterature #africanwriters #africanauthors #blacktalent #thepowerofhabit #charlesduhigg #capetown #park #southafrica #blvbc

Through ‘The Power of Habit’ I learnt that for me to change, I need to understand why I do what I do-what triggers my actions? It is with that knowledge that I am able to manipulate the stimulus or that I at least become conscious enough to change how I react to that trigger. For example if you are a smoker and are trying to quit smoking, you start by analyzing and figuring out what causes you to smoke. If you realize that feeling stressed in preparation for an exam causes you to smoke, you became aware of that trigger. At this point, smoking is a way for the handle the pressure of exams. The question should now be, what healthier alternatives can you adopt that can provide a similar satisfaction. You might find that chewing gum or squeezing a stressball (the list of solutions are endless) can be your new ‘habit’.


Making Money out of Property in South Africa

My interest in financial literacy developed after reading Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki last year. Ever since then my interest in reading on property has become a gateway to me one day having many properties under my belt and achieving multiple streams of income. As Jason Lee states in ‘Making Money out of Property in South Africa’, ‘Only a fool treads into unknown territory with their eyes shut’. I see saving for a deposit as a beautiful hindrance as this buys me time to learn as much as possible about the Property market. Jason encourages the power of negotiation as this, he believes, has resulted in him getting making deals and making a good profit. Of course, this means, identifying the right time to purchase property. Being up to speed with current affairs and knowing the state of the economy is necessary in determining when to purchase property. It is all about the law of supply and demand. In a booming economy, people have more spending time and hence, the demand for property is a lot higher. However, in an economic downturn, negotiation becomes your greatest asset.

The Secret Lives of Baba Segi WivesThe Secret Lives of Baba Segi’s Wives was a beautiful escape into fiction. It is set in Nigeria and is about a polygamous man and his interactions with his wives especially his youngest wife, Bolanle The plot blew my mind especially when we discover why his fourth wives can not bear any children. Lest I say too much, I will not go further on this book but I would definitely recommend this book especially seeing as it is an easy read.

It was only after our 2hr Meetup that we realized that we had spoken about Finance, Morning rituals, The Imposter Syndrome, Property, Relationships, Success and Navigating your 20’s. We could have spoken about a lot more if time had allowed us but we can definitely attest to the knowledge and the collaboration that the book club provides. If you are interested in joining us, subscribe to the newsletter below and contact us on info@blvbookclub.com

Compiled by Lerato.

Lerato is a Supply Chain professional in the FMCG industry. Not satisfied with being confined to her day job, Lee is always reading something different. The development of women and Africa are what fuel her passion. She would one day love to have dinner with Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and pick her brain on so many issues.

Zero to One by Peter Thiel

I have dreamt of starting my own kickass business for as long as I can remember. I imagined that I would be doing exciting and meaningful work that would not only be fulfilling to me and the people I work with, but that it would change people’s lives for the better. I even had a timeframe for when I would start this business. I would work and learn as much as I can until I turn 30 and then start that kickass company….that is until I read zero to one.

In this book, Peter Thiel indirectly challenges any notion of merely starting a business just for just. His key point argues that while most businesses move industries from 1 to n- meaning that they do not necessarily do or bring groundbreaking innovations- what we actually need are businesses that tip the scale and move industries from zero to 1. Using Facebook as a primary example, he argues that merely creating an app that mimics Facebook does nothing but saturate the market and because all businesses that have moved the industry from zero to 1 have a strong differentiation factor, saturating the industry is a mere waste of time since you’re competing with a monopoly. With this underlying concept as his key point, most of the book is spent trying to explain some factors that differentiate innovative businesses and their blue ocean strategies.

Now as someone who has been planning to start a business since forever, being confronted with the fact that you might not really be moving the industry forward with your slightly differentiated idea but are merely saturating an industry, can be rather crippling. So after weeks of going through disappointment and then discouragement and then making a decision to give up on this whole notion of starting a business altogether since it will be mediocre anyways, a few interesting thoughts have emerged that I would like to share:

Zero to One 2

  1. Thiel is a white man in the United States of America.

Now now, before you use your high-pitched voice on me about how this isn’t a racial issue, allow me to complete that thought. And no, this is NOT a cop out or defence of mediocrity. My point is: While we need to acknowledge him for his skills and expertise, this fact makes it such that we operate in different universes and have very very different struggles.   While him, Mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk and all his other white male friends- that have all started amazing businesses which he details in his book if I might add- have done really groundbreaking work, as a black woman in South Africa, I need to be careful not to equate our struggles. The principles of starting something new and tipping the scale are all valid ones but the things we will most likely innovate on are extremely different depending on where we are and the challenges we face. I for one am not trying to create the next PayPal, regardless of how important it is.

With financial inclusion still a huge challenge in Africa for example, the solutions we bring need to cater to these very real needs. Sometimes this might mean taking an existing first world solution and tweaking it so that it becomes valuable and useful to our context. Though according to Peter Thiel’s definition, this may not be considered as moving from zero to 1, it would be extremely beneficial to our people.

  1. We need to consolidate our networks.

One of the things that is highlighted in the book is how Thiel and his buddies have been able to link up their varying skills and create innovative things. One of the things I personally haven’t done particularly well is in ensuring that I capitalize on meeting people interested in similar things as myself and then turning those encounters into real innovation opportunities. Moving forward, we need to do better in this area because while we’re all good at something, we do not possess skills in everything and actually require others to complement our skills.

Finally, we need a creative way to integrate into existing value chains.

One of the key challenges for new businesses is to actually be integrated/absorbed and used in existing industries. For this to happen, there need to be actual customers who use the product and a growing trial and demand for it. For the sake of an honest and fruitful discussion, I would like to start with a disclaimer: my thoughts around solutions for this are not yet fully clear and I would genuinely appreciate a rigorous discussion around this area.

One of the advantages for white men in particular is in knowing that they have an expansive network base that will at least sample their new product offering and even trial it in their businesses should it seem interesting enough. This of course is crucial for any new innovation as it creates your first customer base and makes it easier for your product to be absorbed into the market. Black innovators rarely get this benefit of doubt and so they struggle to even get any meaningful client to trial their product. I am inclined to suggest that one of the ways to solve this is if black business leaders who are in industry, take it upon themselves to be intentional in supporting black innovators with at least being samplers of their innovations. Of course this only applies to exciting and useful innovations that come knocking at their doors. While it is my inclination to suggest this as one solution, I would rather leave it to our industry gurus to suggest to black innovators how they can get their products into their companies.

When it comes to entrepreneurship, zero to 1 is one of the most well-written books that I’ve read in a while. Though it became clear pretty early into the book that I am obviously not the target market given the different operating contexts that Thiel and I have, I realised that this did not mean that we throw the baby out with the bathwater. As a result, I have tried to contextualize Thiel’s content to my context. This intentional effort of stripping down work to its essence has been a huge learning for me. While it is easier to dismiss people we deem tone deaf/ non-applicable to our context, this book has taught me that we have a lot to learn even from those we have very little in common with. This however requires that we be willing to do the hard work of scraping out the non-essentials, twisting, bending and reshaping their work until it makes sense to our realities.

By Frank(ie) Talk

Frank(ie) Talk is a Development Finance Masters student at the University of Cape Town. When she is not making bracelets at Relate, you’ll find her at some coffee shop in Cape Town reading or theorizing about the World.

This article could not have come at a better time. I have seen this book doing the rounds on social media and Frank(ie) has conveniently given us glimpse of it. When chatting with friends about finances, the common discussion tends to centre around having multiple streams of income and having startups. Learning how to come up with an innovative idea is a challenge and just even knowing where to begin can be a hindrance. The only way around this is learning and reading as much about the ‘how’. Not everything we read will be essential to our context but as Frank(ie) mentioned, it is all about ‘scraping out the non-essentials, twisting, bending and reshaping their work until it makes sense to our realities.’-Lerato


5 of the 48 laws of power to get you to the top!

48 laws intro

Many a time we have looked at people in positions of power and wondered, how did they get there? To which goddess did they call upon to unlock the map to the labyrinth that is the journey to the top? It always seem so elusive doesn’t it, this ability to influence, to control? Well, it certainly does for me. And that’s why I was so excited for our March read, “The 48 Laws of Power”, by Robert Greene. I’ll admit, this wasn’t an easy book to read. What I would suggest though, is go through the whole list of laws, and read more detail on those that interest you first, until you get through most/all of them. It’s the kind of book you’ll always go back to every now and then, as different aspects of the book will apply to you at different stages in your life. So many buzz words come to mind when we all plan our journey to top positions; strategy, competency, timing, politics. Do I have a game plan, can I do it, when can I start planning to do it, do others think I can do it? I think this book gives great “guidelines” of what our strategies should entail, or what we should at least start thinking about. I would review all 48 laws, but to save both you and I time, go and read the book! For now, here are the 5 laws that resonated the most with me.

  1. Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies So one of the things Robert mentions is how we actually don’t know what our friend’s true characters are like, and I couldn’t agree more. People will show you a side of them that they want you to see. How many times have you heard people say “I never expected that from him/her” or “ I don’t even know who you are anymore”? Friends can be our greatest admirers, but that admiration can become infested by a lack of achievement on their end and turn into envy. And so a lot of the times, when we share plans and goals with friends, we’re actually giving them the blueprint to our path to power and success. Don’t be surprised if, by the time you get to the finish line, your friend has already crossed and taken the prize, because they found a better, alternative route, or led you the wrong way! Robert talks about engaging your enemies and turning them into allies. I don’t know about you, but I thought this was a hard pill to swallow. After all, they are an enemy for a reason!
  2. So much depends on reputation – guard it with your life What are you known for? So much depends on your reputation guard it with your lifeWho do people see you as? Your reputation is what people use to frame a perception of what you’re capable of, and whether you can be taken seriously in the hot seat. Part of managing a reputation is having one! If you just sit quietly in your cubicle and clock your hours, no one is going to think anything of you. In fact, they won’t think of you at all! So create a name for yourself, and act in a way that you would like to represent your brand. If you always cry at the office or moan about personal things you’re failing to handle, no one is really going to believe that you’re going to be able to compose yourself in a boardroom or handle much larger problems in the business environment. Do I think you shouldn’t cry in the office? Of course you should if you need to, in the office toilet! I know many people think crying shows you’re human, but if you always have a box of tissue at your desk in the event of a breakdown, then don’t be surprised when people think the only form of pressure you can take is that from a sphygmomanometer. Work hard, meet deadlines and don’t let anyone walk all over you.

3. Make your accomplishments seem effortless So this is something I struggle with, and I’m sure many can relate. Whenever someone says “Hey, nice dress”, instead of just saying “Thank you”, we explain how old the dress is, or how we got it in a sale, or how we need to lose/gain more weight so we can look better in it. The same applies to work. If we do a great job, there is really no need to explain how you spent late nights researching and working on a project, or how you got advice, which was the only reason why you knew what you were doing! God forbid you mention YouTube! Own it, make it seem like it’s the standard that should be expected from you at any given time. Don’t over explain. And because you will always feel pressure to do as well as you did previously, excellence will become a norm with you, without breaking a sweat. Always remember that if you want to get to the top, you need to manage perceptions, or your reputation, and one way is to make your achievements seem like they are all in a day’s work for you. People will want to see how you carry out more difficult tasks, and boom, you’ve been given an opportunity to step up to a more challenging role. Do it, and do it well.

4. Be royal in your own fashion: act like a king to be treated like one You know how they say “Dress for the job you want, not the one you have”? Similar concept. If you want to be an executive, you need to start acting like one. I’m not saying go stepping on toes and openly challenging the person currently holding the role. This will just backfire! But do carry yourself like you’re at that level of management, or whichever level you aspire for. Network in those circles, attend those conferences/seminars. If people in senior management are used to seeing you around them, guess who’s going to come to mind when they are deciding whom to give the senior post. Just make sure you do everything else right. Put forward strategic ideas that show you understand the business, and soon you’ll be in a position to manage the strategy of the business.

5. Do not go past the mark you aimed for: learn when to stop I felt that this applied to when we have attained a certain level of power, but we’re not in the top position. It’s so easy to think you’ve made it, and to a degree, begin to abuse that power, or take for granted that we might have attained it through favor from others. This isn’t to say don’t aspire for more; ambition is a good thing. But continue to be strategic; don’t grow your list of enemies unnecessarily, and stay on top of your game!

By Ashleigh

An avid traveler on a quest to explore Africa but my day job is in financial data services. I enjoy photography and writing. Visit my travel blog on http://thingu.com/.

The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene was our March Book Club read discussed in the April Meetup. There were quite some mixed feelings and thoughts on the book especially with it being a long read. The important part is that although not all laws are applicable, there is bound to be a law that you can relate to in both your personal and business life. Thanks Ashleigh for sharing the laws that stood out for you and for making this book relatable -Lerato