Thrive

*Thrive*You are a badass*Miracle Morning*

It has been a while since we shared our thoughts and discussions with you our readers. This has largely been due to a hiatus we decided to take in order to determine the direction the book club needed to take to grow. During this break, I continued with my #30bookchallenge and I am now on my 16th book. This means I would have to read 1 book roughly every week to make it to the 31st of December. It will be done!

I have been on a personal development journey and have learnt to appreciate self-help books. (Click link to read a previous article on self-help books). If you are like me and enjoy watching Ted Talks and motivational videos, you probably believe that every self-help book probably says the same thing just in different ways. There is nothing wrong with that. What is important is that in all the books that you read, something clicks and sticks.

Thrive-Arianna Huffington

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Written by Arianna Huffington, co- founder and editor-in-chief of The Huffington Post, Arianna covers how she has managed to thrive in business while managing a fair work-life balance. She highlights the importance of well-being in our success. I see it often in the workplace where people work long hours and expect to thrive in all that they do. You know those people who get to the office before you and are still on their laptops with no sign of surrender when you leave. I used to be one of those people. My work was my life! Unfortunately/Fortunately my body heeded to the call of rest. I started having migraines often. I had the type of migraines that would render me enfeeble. It was from then that I started to work the necessary work hours, obviously with exceptions occasionally. I believe in working efficiently. I always strive to do all the required work in the time necessary. Arianna recalls a similar wake-up call where she fell and injured herself due to exhaustion and lack of sleep. Through this book, I have also learnt to schedule my sleep times. It feels like primary school all over again with those 8pm bed time calls! Because I dedicate my evenings to reading books, watching inspirational videos and sometimes some series, it is easy to sleep as late as midnight. I schedule my sleep time alarm to ensure that I do not come up with the inevitable excuse for snoozing my alarm the next morning.

You are a badass-Jen Sincero

You are a badass

Jen Sincero is that sassy aunt with wit, down-to-earth humor and blunt truths! Reading this book was refreshing. No topic is too mundane in this book. She is telling you to snap out of whatever is getting in the way of you being a badass. ‘You are a victim of the rules you live by’. The rules you live by can be determined by what you absorb from your surroundings and forms of influence. Not all of it is positive. We need to find a quiet space that allows us to identify those causal elements and break them down. ‘The life you want is right here, right now’. What type of life do you envision for yourself? Are you living that life now? What do you need to do live that life? Start now. #thatisall.

Ok, ok, it’s not that easy. If it was, we would be living our best lives already. This is where my third book comes in.

Miracle Morning-Hal Elrod

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Of the three books, this was my favorite! I always know a book is good by countless personal notes in the margins or rather in the notes section of my kindle. I had many aha moments and it resonated with a lot of what I had been thinking prior to reading the book. I have often declared that I am not a morning person even though I desire to be one. I believe that if I wake up early, I get a good start to my day. This is instead of the usual scramble in the morning to shower, dress up and get my foot out of the door to make it in time for my first meeting. Hal Elrod says ‘It’s time to wake up to your FULL potential.’ He believes that it all starts with how you wake up in the morning, and that there are small, simple steps that one can start taking today to enable one to become the person they need to be to create the levels of success they truly want and deserve. Hal also gives us a 95% reality check-95% of our society is settling for far less than they are capable of, struggling in almost every area of their life. The other 5% are simply thriving. He advises us to ‘identify the fundamental causes of mediocrity so you prevent them from robbing you of the life you want’.

The greatest insight from this book would be the Life S.A.V.E.R.S. These are the 6 practices that Hal says are guaranteed to save you from a life of unfulfilled potential.

S is for Silence-it is starting the morning with a period of purposeful silence and shutting all the noise that is determine to destroy your day before it even begins. This can be through meditation, prayer, reflection, deep breathing and gratitude.

A is for Affirmations- shutting any negative internal dialogue and replacing it with positive assertions about yourself. This prevents you from ‘repeating and reliving the fears, insecurities, and limitations of your past.’

V is for Visualization-This is the process of imagining exactly what you want to achieve or attain, and then mentally rehearsing what you’ll need to do to achieve or attain it. I have always had a vision board but Hal emphasized the importance of viewing it daily and amending it when the necessary.

E is for Exercise-‘From waking you up and enhancing your mental clarity, to helping you sustain higher levels of energy throughout the day, exercising soon after rising can improve your life in many ways.’

R is for Reading- I am obviously an advocate for this. Because I read before I go to bed, I dedicate my Miracle Morning to reading thought-pieces and articles.

S is for Scribing-This empowers one to document their idea, insights, successes and areas of opportunity.

‘Whatever it is that you write, putting words on the page is a form of therapy that doesn’t cost a dime.’-Diana Raab

 My biggest lesson from reading these books has been that one can search and read about how to improve themselves but you have to be mentally prepared to do the work that is required to see your efforts be realized. And even if you are not in that mental space yet, reading and learning as much as possible still comes a long way into getting to where you want to be.

Have you read any of these books? How have they empowered you in your personal development journey?

 

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Black women breathe flowers too: After Nayyirah Waheed

Black women breathe flowers too: After Nayyirah Waheed

Black women are amazing, there’s no doubt about that. However, most of what people think we are amazing for isn’t even our own doing. If I had to detail the gymnastics we’ve had to do to survive, you’d be reading all day. Failed by fellow women, failed by our men,  black girls have been on their own for a while now and we’ve held our own. We have shrunk ourselves,  we have pulled tricks out of hats, traded our physical and mental health and dignity all to get sh*t done.

Now all of this has supposedly toughened us. It has given off the impression that we embody strength. Maybe we do, but trust me, it was never by choice. Black women have never purposely worn the badge of strength, it has been thrust on us by all those who benefit from us wearing this badge.  What this has done is that it has made mannier men-and dare I say black- think that we aren’t delicate. That we don’t need care. That we thrive in our position of strength.

Issa lie.All of it.

Growing up, I watched my “strong” grandmother be given pocket money from her own grant by my grandfather. The logic was that because she was strong, she supposedly could make-do with less money. That very same grandmother could only run to her daughters to cry and share her anger. Her pride and sense of family could not allow her to share her pain with anyone outside her family, because well, her respected preacher husband’s reputation needed protecting.

I further watched my own mother raise 4 children alone. I watched as she too, pulled tricks out of a hat to give these kids the best shot at life. With a man who walked out on her,  she had to embody “strength” if any of us were to make it.  To this day,I have no idea the extent of my mother’s sacrifices for us. What I do know is that, hurt as she was,  she had to swallow her pain and anger time and time again for our sake. She made sure we weren’t jaded.

Now now, some of you are probably unable to relate to any of this because your fathers and grandfathers and uncles and brothers and cousins are amazing (right….). What I do want you to be honest about though is how often the women in your family have been burdened with wearing the badge of “strength” for the sake of the family’s survival. How much bitter shame, heartache and rage they’ve had to swallow back all for the sake of the men in their lives?

Great…now we’re getting somewhere.

This strength badge that only black women seem to have been gifted with has created this perception of the existence of “strong black women”. Our “strength” is tried and tested each time black men mess up and we have to either clean up after them or siqume inyala(cover-up their shenanigans). The irony of this is that men always seem to be the testers of the depth of this supposed strength that they have thrust upon us. It’s a never-ending fountain that they drink from often.

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News flash:
Like all your delicate other women,”black women breathe flowers too” as Nayyirah Waheed so eloquently put it. We aren’t woven in strength,  we have had to learn that so as to carry the weight of our deliberately weak men. I for one am sick of this badge that I’ve never asked for. Black women cannot continue breaking and shrinking for the sake of men. Believe it or not, black women aren’t any more stronger than the average person, we’ve just done what needs to be done to survive.
Yeah,let that sink in. We are neither hulks nor magicians.
Frank(ie) Talk is a Development Finance Masters student at the University of Cape Town. When she is not making bracelets at Relate, you’ll find her at some coffee shop in Cape Town reading or theorizing about the World.
This could not have come at a better time. The hashtag #Menaretrash has been trending and has once again exposed our  society -a society at shame with itself with how it treats its black women. It is an epidemic. Until we fix it and until we accept that black women breathe flowers too we will never be able to fix the many socioeconomic issues we face today. And it is not even just about that. It is about appreciating the women who evoke so much strength to just make things work. Frank(ie) is ranting-rightfully so!-Lerato
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2017-What have you been reading so far?

If there is one thing I appreciate about our Meetups, it would be the variety of books we talk about. Our last General Meetup was not focused on a specific type of book but was about what we had been reading for the last month in our individual capacity. The aim of these general Meetups is to expose each other to other types books out there that we would otherwise have overlooked. Often a person’s recollection of a book and its impact on their life is enough to influence you and catch your interest. If not, you at least consider adding it to your book list.

So what have the ladies been reading so far?

 

Nwamara Obiike: Kasinomics by GG Alcock and Rich Woman by Kim Kiyosaki

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[LATEST ARTICLE ALERT] I NEVER GREW UP IN A WEALTHY HOME By Nwamara Obiike Nwamara shares her journey to financial freedom and is currently reading #RichWoman and #womenandwealth in a her desire to share her take on #Wealth, #women and #africa. We can't wait to learn more from her. #bloggers #blogpost #books #kimkiyosaki #bookfollow #bookclub #womenempoweringwomen #LeadingLadies Enjoy the read and share your thoughts #blvbc

Nwamara has been reading a lot of Financial books and also recently wrote about spending habits. See http://blvbookclub.com/2017/03/01/six-questions-to-ask-before-you-spend-that-money/. Her tip from having read both books would be to ‘Start Small’. It is about getting the basics right first then expanding and even getting to a point where you can buy investments in other markets.

We should all be investing in our Financial Literacy. It is expensive to be poor! If you learn more, you earn more.

Asake Okin: Various blog posts

Asake Okin has been reading a lot of blog posts. One that she recommended was https://hbr.org/2005/09/the-dangers-of-feeling-like-a-fake. We discussed the Imposter Syndrome. This phenomenon is common amongst women. This is a feeling of inadequacy and feeling like you don’t deserve to be where you are. These feelings hinder you from progress. The very same feeling of exposing your weaknesses is bound to become your reality.

Ijangolet Ogwang: The Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes and Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

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For Ijangolet’s thoughts on ‘The Year of Yes’, see http://blvbookclub.com/2017/02/13/so-tell-me-who-are-you/

Miracle Morning

Ijangolet is on a journey of re-reading and applying the books that she has read in the past and a book that she has been enjoying is ‘Miracle Morning’. It is about the theory that what you do before 8am influences your day. I was excited about this discussion because I am not a ‘morning person’ and getting a good start to my day is always something I try to perfect. It is about having time for yourself so that you have time for the rest of the world. Morning rituals were shared. My biggest takeout is that I need to work on sleeping early so that I am in a position to wake up early. It is a work in progress.

Ashleigh: 10 Simple Steps to Property Wealth by Jason Lee

Making Money out of Property in South Africa

’10 Simple Steps to Property Wealth’ is Jason’s second book after the one I recently read, ‘How to make money out of Property in South Africa’. We discussed buying property to sell that is by buying low and renovating then selling the property for good margins. There are other ways to making money like buying a 2-bedroom apartment and converting it into a 3-bedroom apartment. This would usually take less than a year. We also looked at generating alternative revenues from properties through marketing and signage to add value to the property.

Thuli Dube: The Wait by Meagan Good and Devon Franklin and The Smart Money Woman by Arese Ugwu

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Thuli found ‘The Wait’ to be interesting but overrated with all the media hype around it. The book has a Christian premise but claims to be relevant in all sphere of life. We spoke about how we tend to settle for less and at the same time hinder ourselves from being with the one we deserve or actually desire to be with.

So the question was, how do we bring about these opportunities that allow us to be with the partner we are praying for? Ultimately, it is about being patient and waiting on God. The risk of losing patience when waiting for your partner is that you will ‘end up playing musical chairs’: settling for anyone who comes your way.

 

Thuli also enjoyed ‘The Smart Money Woman’. I think this book has been doing the rounds in BLV BOOK CLUB J.

Read  http://blvbookclub.com/2016/12/01/be-a-smart-money-woman/ for more on Smart Money Woman.

The Smart Money Woman characters

Pepsi: How to get from where you are to where you want to be: The 25 Principles of Success by Jack Canfield and The Defining Decade by Meg Jay

Pepsi has a passion for reading on relationships and all things ‘love-related’ and this year, has also decided to re-read a lot of books in order to be apply what she learns in real life.

How to get from where you are to where you want to be

How to get from where you are to where you want to be’ is about taking control of your life. Jack Canfield talks about an equation: situation+response=outcome. We always complain about our circumstances and the people we have to deal with every single day but we never really think about what we can do to change the situation. We allow the situation to have power over our lives. We sometimes spend time complaining about whatever is bothering us yet we never think of what is within our realm of influence. What did you do?

The book also talks about self-belief. With that comes programming yourself so that when you are in your comfort zone you are uncomfortable but when you are in your uncomfortable zone you are comfortable. This fosters continuous improvement. You can do anything you want to achieve but nothing comes easy. We also spoke about time being our currency and how especially at work, we often complain about the tasks we are given. Instead, we should always look at what value can be extracted from that task.

Pepsi’s 2nd book is ‘The Defining Decade’ by Meg Jay is about how your 30’s are not the new 20’s.

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‘The Defining Decade’ is about the things you should do in your 20’s to set you up for life. Meg Jay, the author also touches on relationships and how in our early 20’s we tend to not be intentional about relationships we enter. This set us up for the risk of finding ourselves in our late 20’s playing musical chairs with whoever is available. We also discussed feeling stuck in careers and feeling like we can not pursue new avenues. The starting points should be your points of interests. We should not feel stuck. Our 20’s are also a time for us to spend as much time as possible with our parents. As they get older, they have also become wiser. Time, as mentioned before is of the essence as our parents get older. We should be able to communicate and share as many memories with them whilst we still can. For more on the book, watch https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=the+deciding+decade

Frank(ie) Talk: Beautiful South Sudan by Achier Deng Akol Ayay

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Frank(ie)Talk met a friend from South Sudan whose father, Achier Deng Akol Ayay, actually wrote the book, ‘Beautiful South Sudan’ and she felt she had to read the book and broaden her view of Africa. She learnt to be more intentional about seeking an alternative view on any place out there. Read http://blvbookclub.com/2017/02/16/beautiful-south-sudan-a-love-story/ for more of Frank(ie)’s views on the book.

Lerato: The Power of Habit of Charles Duhigg, Making Money out of Property in South Africa by Jason Lee and The Secret Lives of Baba Segi’s Wives by Lola Shoneyin

Those who follow me on social media will know that I have embarked on a 30 book challenge. Given my schedule and various plans for 2017, 30 seemed like the magic number to achieve this year. I am currently on my 8th book which means that given we are in the 4th month of the year, I am not lagging too far behind. I will not go through all the books I have read so far. That is a whole separate post for another day but I will dwell on at least two of the books I have read so far this year.

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Through ‘The Power of Habit’ I learnt that for me to change, I need to understand why I do what I do-what triggers my actions? It is with that knowledge that I am able to manipulate the stimulus or that I at least become conscious enough to change how I react to that trigger. For example if you are a smoker and are trying to quit smoking, you start by analyzing and figuring out what causes you to smoke. If you realize that feeling stressed in preparation for an exam causes you to smoke, you became aware of that trigger. At this point, smoking is a way for the handle the pressure of exams. The question should now be, what healthier alternatives can you adopt that can provide a similar satisfaction. You might find that chewing gum or squeezing a stressball (the list of solutions are endless) can be your new ‘habit’.

 

Making Money out of Property in South Africa

My interest in financial literacy developed after reading Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki last year. Ever since then my interest in reading on property has become a gateway to me one day having many properties under my belt and achieving multiple streams of income. As Jason Lee states in ‘Making Money out of Property in South Africa’, ‘Only a fool treads into unknown territory with their eyes shut’. I see saving for a deposit as a beautiful hindrance as this buys me time to learn as much as possible about the Property market. Jason encourages the power of negotiation as this, he believes, has resulted in him getting making deals and making a good profit. Of course, this means, identifying the right time to purchase property. Being up to speed with current affairs and knowing the state of the economy is necessary in determining when to purchase property. It is all about the law of supply and demand. In a booming economy, people have more spending time and hence, the demand for property is a lot higher. However, in an economic downturn, negotiation becomes your greatest asset.

The Secret Lives of Baba Segi WivesThe Secret Lives of Baba Segi’s Wives was a beautiful escape into fiction. It is set in Nigeria and is about a polygamous man and his interactions with his wives especially his youngest wife, Bolanle The plot blew my mind especially when we discover why his fourth wives can not bear any children. Lest I say too much, I will not go further on this book but I would definitely recommend this book especially seeing as it is an easy read.

It was only after our 2hr Meetup that we realized that we had spoken about Finance, Morning rituals, The Imposter Syndrome, Property, Relationships, Success and Navigating your 20’s. We could have spoken about a lot more if time had allowed us but we can definitely attest to the knowledge and the collaboration that the book club provides. If you are interested in joining us, subscribe to the newsletter below and contact us on info@blvbookclub.com

Compiled by Lerato.

Lerato is a Supply Chain professional in the FMCG industry. Not satisfied with being confined to her day job, Lee is always reading something different. The development of women and Africa are what fuel her passion. She would one day love to have dinner with Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and pick her brain on so many issues.

Zero to One

Zero to One by Peter Thiel

I have dreamt of starting my own kickass business for as long as I can remember. I imagined that I would be doing exciting and meaningful work that would not only be fulfilling to me and the people I work with, but that it would change people’s lives for the better. I even had a timeframe for when I would start this business. I would work and learn as much as I can until I turn 30 and then start that kickass company….that is until I read zero to one.

In this book, Peter Thiel indirectly challenges any notion of merely starting a business just for just. His key point argues that while most businesses move industries from 1 to n- meaning that they do not necessarily do or bring groundbreaking innovations- what we actually need are businesses that tip the scale and move industries from zero to 1. Using Facebook as a primary example, he argues that merely creating an app that mimics Facebook does nothing but saturate the market and because all businesses that have moved the industry from zero to 1 have a strong differentiation factor, saturating the industry is a mere waste of time since you’re competing with a monopoly. With this underlying concept as his key point, most of the book is spent trying to explain some factors that differentiate innovative businesses and their blue ocean strategies.

Now as someone who has been planning to start a business since forever, being confronted with the fact that you might not really be moving the industry forward with your slightly differentiated idea but are merely saturating an industry, can be rather crippling. So after weeks of going through disappointment and then discouragement and then making a decision to give up on this whole notion of starting a business altogether since it will be mediocre anyways, a few interesting thoughts have emerged that I would like to share:

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  1. Thiel is a white man in the United States of America.

Now now, before you use your high-pitched voice on me about how this isn’t a racial issue, allow me to complete that thought. And no, this is NOT a cop out or defence of mediocrity. My point is: While we need to acknowledge him for his skills and expertise, this fact makes it such that we operate in different universes and have very very different struggles.   While him, Mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk and all his other white male friends- that have all started amazing businesses which he details in his book if I might add- have done really groundbreaking work, as a black woman in South Africa, I need to be careful not to equate our struggles. The principles of starting something new and tipping the scale are all valid ones but the things we will most likely innovate on are extremely different depending on where we are and the challenges we face. I for one am not trying to create the next PayPal, regardless of how important it is.

With financial inclusion still a huge challenge in Africa for example, the solutions we bring need to cater to these very real needs. Sometimes this might mean taking an existing first world solution and tweaking it so that it becomes valuable and useful to our context. Though according to Peter Thiel’s definition, this may not be considered as moving from zero to 1, it would be extremely beneficial to our people.

  1. We need to consolidate our networks.

One of the things that is highlighted in the book is how Thiel and his buddies have been able to link up their varying skills and create innovative things. One of the things I personally haven’t done particularly well is in ensuring that I capitalize on meeting people interested in similar things as myself and then turning those encounters into real innovation opportunities. Moving forward, we need to do better in this area because while we’re all good at something, we do not possess skills in everything and actually require others to complement our skills.

Finally, we need a creative way to integrate into existing value chains.

One of the key challenges for new businesses is to actually be integrated/absorbed and used in existing industries. For this to happen, there need to be actual customers who use the product and a growing trial and demand for it. For the sake of an honest and fruitful discussion, I would like to start with a disclaimer: my thoughts around solutions for this are not yet fully clear and I would genuinely appreciate a rigorous discussion around this area.

One of the advantages for white men in particular is in knowing that they have an expansive network base that will at least sample their new product offering and even trial it in their businesses should it seem interesting enough. This of course is crucial for any new innovation as it creates your first customer base and makes it easier for your product to be absorbed into the market. Black innovators rarely get this benefit of doubt and so they struggle to even get any meaningful client to trial their product. I am inclined to suggest that one of the ways to solve this is if black business leaders who are in industry, take it upon themselves to be intentional in supporting black innovators with at least being samplers of their innovations. Of course this only applies to exciting and useful innovations that come knocking at their doors. While it is my inclination to suggest this as one solution, I would rather leave it to our industry gurus to suggest to black innovators how they can get their products into their companies.

When it comes to entrepreneurship, zero to 1 is one of the most well-written books that I’ve read in a while. Though it became clear pretty early into the book that I am obviously not the target market given the different operating contexts that Thiel and I have, I realised that this did not mean that we throw the baby out with the bathwater. As a result, I have tried to contextualize Thiel’s content to my context. This intentional effort of stripping down work to its essence has been a huge learning for me. While it is easier to dismiss people we deem tone deaf/ non-applicable to our context, this book has taught me that we have a lot to learn even from those we have very little in common with. This however requires that we be willing to do the hard work of scraping out the non-essentials, twisting, bending and reshaping their work until it makes sense to our realities.

By Frank(ie) Talk

Frank(ie) Talk is a Development Finance Masters student at the University of Cape Town. When she is not making bracelets at Relate, you’ll find her at some coffee shop in Cape Town reading or theorizing about the World.

This article could not have come at a better time. I have seen this book doing the rounds on social media and Frank(ie) has conveniently given us glimpse of it. When chatting with friends about finances, the common discussion tends to centre around having multiple streams of income and having startups. Learning how to come up with an innovative idea is a challenge and just even knowing where to begin can be a hindrance. The only way around this is learning and reading as much about the ‘how’. Not everything we read will be essential to our context but as Frank(ie) mentioned, it is all about ‘scraping out the non-essentials, twisting, bending and reshaping their work until it makes sense to our realities.’-Lerato

 

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5 of the 48 laws of power to get you to the top!

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Many a time we have looked at people in positions of power and wondered, how did they get there? To which goddess did they call upon to unlock the map to the labyrinth that is the journey to the top? It always seem so elusive doesn’t it, this ability to influence, to control? Well, it certainly does for me. And that’s why I was so excited for our March read, “The 48 Laws of Power”, by Robert Greene. I’ll admit, this wasn’t an easy book to read. What I would suggest though, is go through the whole list of laws, and read more detail on those that interest you first, until you get through most/all of them. It’s the kind of book you’ll always go back to every now and then, as different aspects of the book will apply to you at different stages in your life. So many buzz words come to mind when we all plan our journey to top positions; strategy, competency, timing, politics. Do I have a game plan, can I do it, when can I start planning to do it, do others think I can do it? I think this book gives great “guidelines” of what our strategies should entail, or what we should at least start thinking about. I would review all 48 laws, but to save both you and I time, go and read the book! For now, here are the 5 laws that resonated the most with me.

  1. Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies So one of the things Robert mentions is how we actually don’t know what our friend’s true characters are like, and I couldn’t agree more. People will show you a side of them that they want you to see. How many times have you heard people say “I never expected that from him/her” or “ I don’t even know who you are anymore”? Friends can be our greatest admirers, but that admiration can become infested by a lack of achievement on their end and turn into envy. And so a lot of the times, when we share plans and goals with friends, we’re actually giving them the blueprint to our path to power and success. Don’t be surprised if, by the time you get to the finish line, your friend has already crossed and taken the prize, because they found a better, alternative route, or led you the wrong way! Robert talks about engaging your enemies and turning them into allies. I don’t know about you, but I thought this was a hard pill to swallow. After all, they are an enemy for a reason!
  2. So much depends on reputation – guard it with your life What are you known for? So much depends on your reputation guard it with your lifeWho do people see you as? Your reputation is what people use to frame a perception of what you’re capable of, and whether you can be taken seriously in the hot seat. Part of managing a reputation is having one! If you just sit quietly in your cubicle and clock your hours, no one is going to think anything of you. In fact, they won’t think of you at all! So create a name for yourself, and act in a way that you would like to represent your brand. If you always cry at the office or moan about personal things you’re failing to handle, no one is really going to believe that you’re going to be able to compose yourself in a boardroom or handle much larger problems in the business environment. Do I think you shouldn’t cry in the office? Of course you should if you need to, in the office toilet! I know many people think crying shows you’re human, but if you always have a box of tissue at your desk in the event of a breakdown, then don’t be surprised when people think the only form of pressure you can take is that from a sphygmomanometer. Work hard, meet deadlines and don’t let anyone walk all over you.

3. Make your accomplishments seem effortless So this is something I struggle with, and I’m sure many can relate. Whenever someone says “Hey, nice dress”, instead of just saying “Thank you”, we explain how old the dress is, or how we got it in a sale, or how we need to lose/gain more weight so we can look better in it. The same applies to work. If we do a great job, there is really no need to explain how you spent late nights researching and working on a project, or how you got advice, which was the only reason why you knew what you were doing! God forbid you mention YouTube! Own it, make it seem like it’s the standard that should be expected from you at any given time. Don’t over explain. And because you will always feel pressure to do as well as you did previously, excellence will become a norm with you, without breaking a sweat. Always remember that if you want to get to the top, you need to manage perceptions, or your reputation, and one way is to make your achievements seem like they are all in a day’s work for you. People will want to see how you carry out more difficult tasks, and boom, you’ve been given an opportunity to step up to a more challenging role. Do it, and do it well.

4. Be royal in your own fashion: act like a king to be treated like one You know how they say “Dress for the job you want, not the one you have”? Similar concept. If you want to be an executive, you need to start acting like one. I’m not saying go stepping on toes and openly challenging the person currently holding the role. This will just backfire! But do carry yourself like you’re at that level of management, or whichever level you aspire for. Network in those circles, attend those conferences/seminars. If people in senior management are used to seeing you around them, guess who’s going to come to mind when they are deciding whom to give the senior post. Just make sure you do everything else right. Put forward strategic ideas that show you understand the business, and soon you’ll be in a position to manage the strategy of the business.

5. Do not go past the mark you aimed for: learn when to stop I felt that this applied to when we have attained a certain level of power, but we’re not in the top position. It’s so easy to think you’ve made it, and to a degree, begin to abuse that power, or take for granted that we might have attained it through favor from others. This isn’t to say don’t aspire for more; ambition is a good thing. But continue to be strategic; don’t grow your list of enemies unnecessarily, and stay on top of your game!

By Ashleigh

An avid traveler on a quest to explore Africa but my day job is in financial data services. I enjoy photography and writing. Visit my travel blog on http://thingu.com/.

The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene was our March Book Club read discussed in the April Meetup. There were quite some mixed feelings and thoughts on the book especially with it being a long read. The important part is that although not all laws are applicable, there is bound to be a law that you can relate to in both your personal and business life. Thanks Ashleigh for sharing the laws that stood out for you and for making this book relatable -Lerato

 

 

 

 

Eat Pray Love

Eat, Pray, Love made me do it.

Eat pray love…

I did not enjoy reading this book. It was like that new guy in the office that everyone raves about but when you see him, you still ask for the new guy because your thirst is not satisfied. With every page I flipped, I could not help but roll my eyes at Liz’s (the writer’s) apparent lack of awareness of her own privilege; I only finished this book because of “media pressure” and I sincerely hoped that she would redeem herself at the end of the book with some possible insights, wisdom or something.

I love love and I believe that companionship enhances feelings and emotions that I already have. With no doubt you can be happy, you can have fun, be challenged and be fulfilled without the validation of a man. Throughout the whole book Liz was obsessed with male attention which made me question why she went on this journey searching for her best self. In my opinion she flirted her way through the book and just fell into the trap of the western world and their obsession with eastern religions.

In as much as I hated how “Eat, Pray Love” was written, along with the writers ignorance, the objectives of the journey is what inspired me to do it. The objective being able to answer the simple question, “what do I want?” Your identity and happiness is definitely at the end of the honest answer to the question.

…made me do it.

Sometime last year I went on a quest for pleasure and devotion in the Far East and Far West of Africa. The objective of this trip was to find the sweet spot between mind and my soul. I wanted to find my best self in every aspect of my life.

I decided to go on this journey because of three simple reasons. I was at a stage in my life that my vision for self was a little blurry, I could not recognise myself and lastly I could afford it (I am beginning to sound like Liz). This article is less about the book and what it made me do but about the little nuggets that I found interesting.

While walking through the streets of Africa I was like a curious little child, always asking why.

I encountered a businessperson from Eretria, Solomon. Unfortunately, it had to be a man but I did not go looking for it. Solomon had his ducks in a row but did not have a companion so he was on a pursuit of love, he was visiting a woman he had never met but was certain she was the one because they had been chatting for months. Solomon left me with the following things to reflect on:

  • Life is too short, do what makes your heart happy.
  • Your family should be your core.
  • Use a condom.
  • Love is worth the sacrifice.
  • My man was born in the eighties.
  • Have lots fun

Out of all the things he said during our encounter, I hold this one point more dearly; for you to evolve, do everything fully.

Ethiopian Food

          Addis Ababa

In Addis Ababa I overindulged, I ate local cuisines that my palate could not recognise, I danced with strangers and I consumed an array of beverages. I had conversations with everyone who was willing to listen. It brought so much joy into my life because for once in my life I was able to converse without trying to make a first impression or satisfy a preconceived idea of who I should be. It was so freeing and refreshing. I reflect on the following nuggets from this experience:

  • Life is too short to be insecure.
  • You need to marry your friend (Lessons from married men who love their kids but not their wives).
  • Respect is important to woman as much as it is important to men.
  • Do not put value to money.
  • Be authentic; do not doctor the way you talk or express yourself to suit a stereotype.
  • The sacrifices your parents made were not for you to be mediocre.

Abidjan 2

     Abidjan

During my travel between Abidjan and Yamoussoukro, I focused on feeling instead of doing. This was the hardest part of the journey because I was nursing the hangover of overindulging in pleasure. It did not surprise me that the biggest reflection for me was on SELF CONTROL! The contrast of the high then low allowed me to look in deeper than the surface. I felt like I was in forced rehabilitation. Because I was out of time and the constant reminder of the objective of the trip, I pushed myself harder and allowed myself to search deeper. In addition to self-control this experience taught me the following:

  • I am worth it.
  • You need to be in the present because tomorrow is just an idea.
  • Do everything with passion.

In as much as the objective of visiting Elubo was to balance out pleasure and devotion it is still a journey I go on daily with intention.

To answer the big question, I am clear about what I want and I am unapologetic about it!

By Pepsi

A Philanthropist by night and a marketer by day. She is always keen to listen and learn.

Thank you for sharing your journey. I am inspired to continue travelling and exploring the world. I appreciate your honest thoughts on the book and how you made the ‘Eat,Pray,Love’  journey your own. There are many lessons to be learnt out there and you do not need to travel far. We have many hidden gems within our own continent of Africa.

Travel and Books.That’s all I really need! :)-Lerato

 

spending money

Six questions to ask before you spend that money!

Budget-Joe Biden

Of all her children, (and I of course the eldest out of 3) my mother believes I am the most Stingy.

She always says “ongame” which is a Sepedi phrase to describe my incessant need to understand where, why, and what my money is doing /going. And although I am now the butt of the family financial jokes; I have gone back to basics by unconsciously using the basics we all learn in elementary school (5W’s &H) to keep myself out of bad debt and start making better financial decisions.

The 5W’s & H is a concept predominately used in journalism to complete stories, I say “complete” simply because without an answer or understanding of all six questions – your story has a hole in it; and when it comes to money…holes lose you money.

“Beware of little expenses; a small leak will sink a great ship.” B. Franklin

M O N E Y!

  1. WHAT – are you spending your money on? In my second year of full employment I realized the need for a budget, and not a mental budget like I’ve always worked on but a full drawn up and maintained budget. I drew up this budget using a simple online budget template which allowed me to also review my expenses monthly and see how I tracked. I realized I spent a lot of money on takeaways and going out shenanigans – even after a full grocery trip.

2. WHERE – can I make the changes? It’s not enough to just know what you are spending your hard earned cash on, but to know where you spent it to help you consolidate. We’ve all bought into all kinds of marketing loyalty programmes profusely sold by businesses. Whether its “FNB: e-bucks” “PnP –smart shopper points” etc. our purses are shouting for mercy with the hordes of loyalty cards we have. The overabundance was not only frustrating my wallet, but it was also not lucrative. With too many cards and limited spending, you are building a little bit everywhere instead of having a carefully selected group of reward and loyalty memberships, consolidating and reaping the rewards they give you by consolidating your buying efforts.

3. WHO – should I give my money to? 

“Average people live above their means. Rich people live below theirs.”-Steven Siebold.

The guy that gives you the most value out of your membership. I travel quite often and realized the importance of great flight prices. Having reviewed where I spent my money, I triangulated my rewards with my need for efficiency in banking, travel, with perks and great grocery options. This can be done all kinds of things you like to do, whether it’s reading, going out or sports.

4. WHY – I’ve come across many people who always say “ I don’t know why I shop so much”  And to be honest, I also don’t know why… this probably where some self-introspection needs to come into the picture. A lot of ladies shop to make themselves feel better and find themselves in a cycle of debt as a result. Take a moment, be honest with yourself and understand WHY you spend (on the unnecessary stuff) the way you do. This will really help you understand your relationship with money.

5. WHEN – Can you say SPECIALS: ) Groceries are cheaper towards the end of the month (everyone is giving specials and coupons).   And finally…Look out for all kinds of specials during their relevant time (travel ahead of time and off-peak, crazy days like BLACK FRIDAY, reading month specials etc.)The time of the month you buy your goodies makes a big difference to the price you pay.

6. HOW can I make the most of my budget, increase my assets and stretch my money? 

“It’s not your salary that makes you rich, it’s your spending habits“Charles A. jaffe

There are many rich & wealthy people who are frugal and thrifty. Today’s millennial have the actions of millionaires ( fancy spending and social related purchases) , it is looked down upon to be “thrifty” but the truth is rich people stay rich by living like they are broke and broke people stay broke by living like rich people.

Recommended money read: Smart Money Woman by Arese Ugwu

smart-money-woman

By Nwamara Obiike:

“I am not an early bird, or a night owl. I am some form of permanently exhausted pigeon!”

African Crusader | Blogger | Foodie

I have just recently finished reading Smart Money Woman by Arese Ugwu as book 5 of my #30bookchallenge. Read Be a Smart Money Woman by Asake-Okin for more on the book. Nwamara fittingly ties in her views of money with those of Arese. The biggest callout is keeping an eye on our money. The things we do when we have little money will be magnified when we have millions and billions. Having more money does not wipe away our money problems. I personally,  have developed a new definition of what being broke means to me through making small but deliberate changes in my spending. It is never too late!-Lerato

The Smart Money Woman characters

Justice Malala-We have begun our descent

We Have Now Begun Our Descent- How to Stop South Africa Losing It’s Way

We have begun our descent. We are screwed to put it less eloquently.

Justice Malala 2

Justice Malala

Justice Malala is a seasoned political analyst, which made him one of the best people to write an account on the state of affairs in the Rainbow nation. This account was written in 2015 and outlines some of the things Justice feels have gone wrong with the country. Contrary to the stoic disposition that is often seen with journalists the writing of Justice is surprisingly emotional charged and often comes of as the frustration and subsequent venting of a normal citizen of South Africa. This raw emotion is refreshing, albeit scary. If even the usually impartial members of the press are now unable to keep their emotions in check then, again to put it no way eloquently, we are REALLY screwed.

The first half of the book is dedicated to singling out the lack of strong leadership in the country which has left the country reeling with investors losing faith and retreating their businesses, service delivery nonexistent and a tyranny of corrupt members of parliament whose sole interest and purpose is to line their pockets before the walls come caging in on them, which they eventually will. He singles out a lack of participation of the general public in the daily matters of the country, which has allowed the people tasked with running this country to be complacent. Using the example of the power outages that plagued the country in 2008, instead of making a huge noise and taking Eskom, the national electricity supplier, to task, people simply went and bought generators. This he writes, was the people of South Africa ‘saying goodbye to Eskom and South Africa. They were checking out. They had given up on the system.”

“I am angry. I am furious. Because I never thought it would happen to us. Not us, the rainbow nation that defied doomsayers and suckled and nurtured a fragile democracy into life for its children. I never thought it would happen to us, this relentless decline, the flirtation with a leap over the cliff.”

The ruling party also receives quite a tongue lashing for failing to take a country that had so much hope and opportunity after the end of apartheid to one that sees the poorer get poorer whilst the few elite continue to pilferage the country and enjoy the fruits of the bountiful resources the country has to offer. He believes that fixing the economy for all to benefit will be a “silver bullet” for the racial problems that plague the country……a statement I found myself viscously shaking my head against. As an outsider looking in, this country’s issues with race go beyond financial and economical matters, but that, is a topic for another day.

The media also cannot escape the attack of words from the analyst. They, and he implicates himself in this too, stand accused of buckling to the government’s demands of portraying them in a good light in their reporting. They are accused of not providing their audience with unbiased, factual news at all times as should be the case. The tragedy that was Marikana also gets mentioned and as per almost every other article on the events of 16 August 2012 it is outlined in detail all the shocking decisions that were made and greed that led to the unfortunate loss of life on that day. Al Bashir has a place in this book too as having turned the Republic of South Africa into a willing accomplice in aiding and abetting a fugitive of justice to evade the law and his day in court.

Heavy stuff.

Fortunately Justice is not only a man of questions and pointing out the wrong. He is a man of solutions as well. Here are some of his suggested solutions to mending a country that is on the edge of the cliff, and indeed has begun it’s descent:

Thuli Madonsela (bear in mind the book was written in 2015)

  1. Thuli Madonsela (bear in mind the book was written in 2015)
  2. Voting for delivery not history
  3. Capable, merit based state led by visionary political leadership
  4. Protection of the Constitution
  5. Pro-active tackling of inequality
  6. Value based leadership
  7. State of economy to drive accountability
  8. Back to School aka quality education
  9. No to corruption
  10. Actually putting into action all these fancy economic plans that seem to exist only on paper
  11. New leadership ethos

Pretty simple and straight forward. Right? Fast forward two years and it would seem the country is still rolling full speed ahead on that descent.

All, in all a somber take on the state of affairs in South Africa highlighting just how backwards the country has moved since the hard fought independence and rainbow nation that so many wished for.

Side note: I do not consider myself a political person. However I find myself very intrigued in finding out how our beloved African countries seem to all end up in the states that they are in. And more importantly what the way out is. it is always saddening to read the same stories coming out of all these African states, from the DRC to Zimbabwe to South Africa. Copy and paste. We need to catch a wake up call!

(All opinions and beliefs are mine. And no political party was hurt in the writing of this article.)

By Siphathi

Siphathi is an extroverted introvert. When she is not injecting a little humour into the world she is an engineer trying to pay her bills. Lover of sport, soccer and formula 1 to be exact. But most of all she is an avid reader who loves getting lost in books with a glass of wine by the side.

This is confirmation of the knowledge one gains simply by reading on a topic they are not particularly adept on. Thanks Siphathi for demonstrating that with your well thought out view on this book. I can only wonder the ominous tone Justice would have conveyed if he wrote on the same topic in 2017. A lot has happened in the last two years. A lot!.-Lerato

Beautiful South Sudan

BEAUTIFUL SOUTH SUDAN: A LOVE STORY

Beautiful South Sudan in many respects, can be viewed as a love letter to the country. Throughout the book, the author is at pains to detail her beauty, to highlight her strengths and not dwell on her flaws. With every spill of ink, you can sense the author’s anguish at the destruction of the country, celebrate with him as he describes his exquisite beloved and grieve with him for the children she has lost in the quest for freedom. While the book is littered with historical facts and images, it is not short of seductive poetry and prose to romanticize the narration. I found this book extremely important as it is not often that we get Africans telling their own stories. Often, we are bombarded with biased narratives that beckon us to write off our countries as single stories with no nuance. With this erasure, we forget to humanize our people, to honour their stories and their pride as a people. In Beautiful South Sudan, we are forced to glare at the people of South Sudan’s humanity, to see that they too have children just like the rest of us. That they dream of a time beyond the war; that they have love and poetry and beauty and way more than mere politics.

This was deeply striking for me on a personal note because I do not remember a time when I have shared anything about South Sudan outside the war. I do not remember talking about their art or their resources or their languages. I do not remember talking about their humanity. This book, while a mixture of many things is such a moving attempt to fit a country into a few pages. Ayay scrambles to put together historic memories, current realities and dreams of the future the country wants to see. Given how packed the book is, you will probably not want to read it all in one go (trust me on this one, I attempted to). This book requires time. You might get lost in the history of the country and find yourself spending endless hours on google trying to piece together the many facets. Or you might be deeply troubled by the current reality and get lost in deliberating that. Most times though, I found myself dreaming with the author. I found myself imagining what John Garang (google him!) would say or think about the current state and what wise words he would share about the way forward.

John Garang

My biggest lesson while reading this book though was seeing how easy it is as a naïve outsider to look at an entire country- a proud and intelligent people- without much context and arrogantly make well-meaning but short-sighted suggestions about what needs to be done. This book has taught me to listen more. To be deliberate in seeking out the voices of the people affected by the situation and to believe what they tell me. When they detail their abuse at the hands of Northern Sudan, to believe them. When they request the rest of us to step aside and let them solve their own issues, to grant them the request. And if they ever need a helping hand, to be ready to give one without judgement or condescension when they ask.

“Imagine a traveler walking into your cattle camp one evening; you welcome him warmly, give him milk to drink and the best bed to sleep on. He stays with you for an indefinite period and when you tell him that he has overstayed his welcome and was time for him to go, he claims that it was your fault to let him stay so long anyway and demands a share of your cattle: would you allow him to do so?”—Dr. John Garang speaking to a crowd of Dinka herdsmen in 1998 about the arrival and occupation of Sudan by the Arabs

As a caveat, I will be the first to acknowledge that this was not the type of book I would typically pick up for a number of reasons. While this may be true for you too, I would still recommend you get yourself a copy if you have any interest at all in learning more about South Sudan. This is especially true for those of us committed to seeing more authentic and balanced stories of our continent being told. This book did that for me. It exposed my ignorance, renewed a desire in me to see more and do more for Africa as a whole and for that, I am deeply thankful to the author for his courageous narration.

By Frank(ie) Talk

Frank(ie) Talk is a Development Finance Masters student at the University of Cape Town. When she is not making bracelets at Relate, you’ll find her at some coffee shop in Cape Town reading or theorizing about the World.

Thank you Frank(ie) for always urging us to identify our own biases in order to get out of our comfort zones and address those biases. We might not always have the funds to travel and see the world but it is through books that we are enlightened and forever changed. I will be travelling to South Sudan soon through Beautiful South Sudan 🙂 -Lerato 

The Year of Yes

So, Tell Me Who are You?

I gasped taken aback by the one question that demands an instantaneous response, but the weightiest question I have encountered. You don’t want to flounder; you want to respond with the eloquence that is reserved for royalty. You want to pause at all the right places for the listener to feel the texture of who you are descend upon them. You want to be certain of even the conjunctions that string together this all-encompassing tapestry. You want confidence to beam with the certainty of a sunrise in your very eyes.

“ I notice authenticity without so much as a second glance. They’re the ones with white knuckles and shaking hands. The world tries to rip it from them but they never let go. You must grab hold of who you are with both hands and never let go.”- Cindy Cherie

Authenticity: I soon realized that, that twelve letter world was all things I hoped my response would be to that question, “Who are you?” and any other question that resembled it. I found this virtue the spring from which all other virtues were free to be entirely themselves. Kindness was one of a kind. Happiness was joy. Humility was the realization that you my dear are not the center of the universe.

I found myself obsessing over authenticity and all of a sudden wherever I looked there it was staring at me adorned in all its glory but oblivious to me staring at it. It wasn’t there to solicit my praise but when I applauded it, it glanced over its shoulder and smiled.

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I recently read the Year of YES by Shonda Rhimes, what I marveled at was how she didn’t attempt to perform literary gymnastics unless she really felt like it. She was shockingly honest about the things she struggled with and the wounds she is still plastering. She confesses that she like many women struggled and still struggles to embrace compliments, irrespective of the fact that she Shonda essentially owns Thursday night television with Greys Anatomy and Scandal. The Year of YES, was a challenge to say yes to the things she feared and this is how she undid the fear. Saying yes to what she feared she soon realized she was saying “Yes” to the parts of herself that she felt undeserving of, was saying yes to “stepping into the sun”.

She takes a scalpel and dissects the character Cristina from Greys Anatomy and how she represented a rainbow of authenticity that Shonda vicariously lived through and found herself.

This Cristina that we made was a revelation. She was never silenced. Never small. Never insecure to make good on her natural gifts. The Cristina of our collective dreams was larger than life. While often afraid she overcame her fears through sheer strength of will. This is why I wrote her more eloquently. Coloured her brightly and drew outside the lines.”

I have since seen this authenticity rear it’s head in the humility of Maya Angelou: “ I consider nothing human alien from me.” I see it in Chimamanda’s brilliantly crafted letter to Michelle Obama applauding her for being not what was expected but striving for true above unique. Its in the way Chimamanda wholeheartedly celebrates Michelle in words that are alive, raw and oh so generous. It’s in Zadie Smith and how she admits that she doesn’t read comments about her writing simply because she doesn’t have the stomach for it and she would rather be happy than voluntarily seek unhappiness. All these women are yards from perfect but they are real. Perhaps by knowing what we like, what we don’t, what makes us happy, by intimately knowing ourselves we are better able to just be all that we are. Witty, Intellectual, Childish, Idealistic, free. The wind, rain, a train and spring time.

The Year of Yes 2

 

So, Tell me Who are You?

By Ijangolet Ogwang

Ijangolet Ogwang is bullish on Africa. She is most passionate about complexities and the opportunities hidden on the continent. When she isn’t writing, she is reading books from multi-faceted disciplines. She is passionate about how entrepreneurship can be used as a tool for economic growth, catalyzing the idea that business must be used as a tool for doing good and social impact. She is a Finance professional, understanding the stories numbers tell by day and crafting stories by night

The Year of Yes is on my list of books to read in my #30bookchallenge. Ijangolet has given me another reason to read it. We are a month and a half into 2017. May it encompass the authenticity we need in order to live our best lives. Let us know who we are and never let go.-Lerato